Does your mind conjure up all sorts of negative “what if” scenarios when you think about doing something differently? Are you worried about uncertainty, and as a result you’re not stepping forward in your life?
I know what that feels like. Been there, done that!
Staying small this way doesn't feel good, right?
You want positive, healthy change, but fear comes to visit, and so you shrink back.
I don't want you to be a prisoner of your own mind in that way. So today I encourage you to consider – what you are missing out on in your life because of fear? There is a price we pay when fear wins out. So go ahead and write down now what you are not doing because of fear, and therefore what you are missing out on.
The world is waiting for you – the relationships you want, the experiences to be had, the career growth and business opportunities to engage with, the elevated health and wellbeing, the personal adventure – whatever calls to you. It is waiting.
But chances are your mind has collated a series of “what if” scenarios as mounting evidence about why it's a bit too risky or uncertain to allow yourself to create that “so-called positive change”. Your mind pretends to protect you. It says your fear is real. It convinces you to listen closely to things like…
- Don’t express yourself, what if people will judge you
- Don’t listen to your intuition, what if it's wrong
- Don’t try to achieve that goal again, it didn't work last time, you'll be embarrassed and shamed if you fail again
- Don't do XYZ, there are no guarantees it will work
- Don’t expect too much for yourself, then you won’t get disappointed
- Don’t go for the promotion at work, it will come with responsibility, what if you can't cope
- Don’t try XYZ, there are too many unknowns
The funny thing is that while your mind genuinely wants to protect you and thinks it's doing it's job well (primary job description – AVOID DANGER), in many cases your mind can be completely wrong!
Consider this – a gigantic pile of information has been fed into your mind. Take all the things you've experienced in the past, everything other people have told you (from the moment you were born, through your upbringing and schooling, through to today), everything you've seen in the media and news, and your mind absorbed it all and then tries to navigate this world “on-defense” ready to take care of you and ensure nothing bad happens. That works really well sometimes, when you avoid real danger, but a lot of times it completely squashes you as you stay small to avoid PERCEIVED threat.
The past does not dictate how the future goes. The experiences you've had before don't define what comes next. Other people's experiences, fear, beliefs and words don't project your future. The media and the news broadcasts you see every day don't dictate what will come next for you.
YOU define your coming moment. And you have the choice to let your mind run on auto-pilot (aligning to fearful conditioning that it has picked up over a lifetime) therefore you stay small and miss out on your life OR you can intervene with your conscious awareness and free will, to change your mind, to direct your coming moments in ways that work for you. To not lay down at the feet of fear. To stand up, to rise up, to have things be different for you from this day onward.
So in this vlog, I’m sharing a powerful (and simple!) attitude change that you can start using today to help you take back control over your mind, and break down fear. This attitude change made a tremendous difference for me in the past, and I've used it on the journey to overcome various types of fears – to change how I live, to have more fun, to do adventurous new things, to follow my heart, to see life with new eyes.
I highly encourage you to get practical with this – listen to the above video, write down what you are not doing (where fear has you stuck), what you are missing out on in life, and then apply the tip in the video to break down that fear and show your mind a new way of perceiving and therefore living.
I look forward to hearing your own experiences, insights and feedback. Scroll down to leave a comment below and I will reply back as soon as possible.
With love, Bernadette