Ever felt like there is something lacking within you or in your circumstances that prevents you from flourishing in your life? It’s common to have times in your life when you feel like there are barriers to the change you want to create.
I am ever the seeker of evidence, so in order to see what was really going on out there among my community of readers and clients I asked the question…
“What do you believe is the single greatest barrier to positive change in your life?”
Below is quick snapshot of the responses:
- Lack of self-belief and confidence – 40%
- Unsure where or how to start creating change – 16%
- Personal circumstances and resources – 15%
- Lack of time and space to create change – 6%
- Fear of failure – 6%
- Fear of judgement and ridicule – 3.5%
- Lack of support/motivation/inspiration – 3.5%
- Other (such as ‘a little bit of all these things’, ‘familiarity of current situation is easier than the fear of the unknown’ and ‘uncomfortable being vulnerable/addressing true emotions in order to move forward’) – 10%
What You Believe Becomes Your Reality
You might have noticed that we worded the question, very purposefully, as “What do you BELIEVE….” in relation to barriers to change. That is because your beliefs are what create the barrier/s. And, you have the ability to shift your beliefs. That’s fab news!
It all comes down to how much you want to shift any limiting beliefs. Because you can, it is just a choice and willingness to look at the limitation and to put in the conscious effort (awareness) to retrain your belief system in a way that better serves you. The result will be an empowered version of self for the rest of your life. The effort is worth it! Think of it like a ritual, not a chore. If people put half the effort into themselves as they do into everything (and everyone) else, they would be astounded at the change that results.
A core reason many people don't put that effort into themselves, is that they don't put themselves first in their life. They come last after everything and everyone else. It's time to drench yourself with love and to realise that you are the centre of your life experience, everything stems from you and the best thing you can do for everyone around you is to care for and love yourself (like during aeroplane safety briefings when they tell you to fit your own oxygen mask first before helping others!)
Shifting Yourself – Dissolving Barriers
From your commitment to change, and from your self-belief, stems the endless possibilities available to you. Nothing and no one can tell you what to believe, what to think, how to feel or what to do. You and you alone create your life. You and you alone perceive what stands in your way. You and you alone create or break down the barriers that appear before you. It's all about lifting your awareness, using your consciousness to your advantage, and starting to make choices moment by moment that will propel you upwards.
So now you might be thinking… “Well, yes I believe that I have barriers to change, and I want to change those beliefs so that those barriers don’t block me any more. But, how the heck do I shift my beliefs?”
I'd love to work with you if you are ready for creating transformation in your personal and professional life, using my simple but powerfully effective techniques and Unleash Your Life coaching method… for rewiring you for inner peace, freedom and success. Get in touch with me directly if you are ready to leave the baggage behind and lift into the next level of your evolution.
With love, Bernadette