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10 Truths You Need to Know for Peace and Happiness

We're all beautiful human beings here in this world trying to find our way.

Every day we seek to better understand the meaning of our lives. We long to discover our gifts and release them fully into the world, and we hope to find happiness and peace along the way.

For some of us these desires ring loud and clear, driving what we do and how we do it.

For others, these deep seeded needs are buried below the noise of daily life, below ego, below fear, below the pressures and norms that we face in society… and thus, they are rarely addressed.

Along my own journey of self-actualization, I’ve witnessed many great people discover their own paths to peace, happiness and self-fulfilment, and I’ve noticed common themes emerge.

In all cases, the peace and happiness they discover and gradually develop internally is seeded by the realization of certain fundamental truths.

It seems we are all here to realize these truths, in our own way, in our own time. And once they resonate fully, not just intellectually, but emotionally and spiritually, we are then able to find the peace and happiness we seek, no matter what…

1. It’s impossible for anyone else to define YOU

You are indefinable. You are the only one in this world who gets to say who you are. Circumstances and the opinions of others can only define you if you allow them to. Do not give away your power and the magic of your essence by putting weight on negative situations in your life or the negative words of other people.

2. You were born with everything you need

There is nothing you are missing. There is no need to frantically become more, be more, do more, or get more. You are whole and complete, and were gifted every talent and insight you needed to thrive in this world in the moment you were born. Your only job is to accept this truth and then allow it to unfold. Some gifts don’t become apparent until later in life. Some insights only become clear to you once you have life experiences that unlock such wisdom from within you. Trust that the universe supports you.

3. Perfection is a man-made illusion

We are beautifully imperfect beings, operating in a very imperfect world, and that is just the way it is meant to be. Striving for perfection is a hollow goal, one that can never be achieved. Society shows us doctored images of perfection constantly in marketing, media, opinions and expectations. Do not buy into this illusion; it will only lead you into darkness. Embrace your quirks, your flaws and the fact that life is a roller coaster at times. Strive for excellence, have high standards… but never confuse that with the crippling behavior of perfectionism.

4. You are NOT your thoughts

You are the witnessing essence and consciousness behind the noise in your mind. Your mind doesn’t define you, nor does it control you. It is not who you are. As soon as you recognize this, by watching your thoughts like an intrigued third-party observer, you will create instant distance from those thoughts and therefore no longer be identified with or enslaved by them.

5. Your beliefs can be modified to lift you up

Whatever you believe to be true about yourself and life in the long-term becomes your reality. Your beliefs are ingrained patterns of thinking that you build up over a lifetime. They are habitual ways of processing the world around you. If those beliefs don’t work in your favor, you can change them. How? In the very same way the negative beliefs formed in the first place – via repetitive thoughts that you accepted to be the truth.

6. The past and future don’t exist

Now is the moment. The past is just a memory. The future is a mental projection. You can choose to dwell back in the past for learning and joyous reflection. You can choose to dwell in the future for visualization and practical planning. However, any time your awareness floats away to the past or future frequently for negative purposes, you are suffocating your ability to thrive in the only moment you ever have… the now.

7. Your calling in life is to fully express who you already are

The world will never see another human being like you. There is no one on the face of the planet that has what you have. Your uniqueness, in every respect, is your gift. Life asks one thing of you… to be the full expression of yourself so that you can leave your unique imprint on all those you encounter and upon the world. Never underestimate the power of your energy and how it ripples outwards to affect everything and everyone around you – IF you are being your full, authentic self. Honor your intuition and act upon all your inspirations.

8. Challenges are gifts for your growth

Without challenges you cannot unlock your full potential. Obstacles are opportunities for growth. The world needs the fullness of who you are, and it is through your experiences in life that you unfold into that fullness. How can you demonstrate willpower and strength if your resolve has never been tested? How can you role model love and compassion if you have never faced the opposite? Knowing there is a higher purpose within dark times, is what leads you to be at peace in the midst of those storms, knowing that you are a diamond being forged under pressure.

9. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself

We do not forgive others in order to free them of the situation, burden, guilt or regret. We forgive others to free ourselves and walk into compassion and love by doing so. It is in freeing ourselves that our energy level rises, our consciousness rises, and in doing so those around us benefit too. The words of forgiveness have a positive impact on those we forgive, but ultimately forgiveness is a choice that allows us to be happy again. This goes for both forgiveness of others and forgiveness of self.

10. Surrender is the gateway into sustainable inner peace

Letting go is not giving up. Letting go is surrendering any obsessive attachment to particular people, outcomes and situations. Surrender means showing up every day in your life with the intention to be your best self, and to do the best you know how, without expecting life to go a certain way. Have goals, have dreams, aspire and take purposeful action, but detach from what life must look like.

The energy of someone aspiring to create their dreams, teamed with surrender, is far more powerful and creative than someone determined to create outcomes with a desperate ‘must have’ mentality. Surrender brings inner peace and joy, and lest we forget that our outer lives are a reflection of our inner state of being.

With love, Bernadette

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19 Responses

  1. I am so looking forward to your new book Bernadette. Sometimes as individuals we are so busy that we forget to stop and look for signs or ask for direction – it’s not rocket science is it? But by the same token I appreciate that you are there – supporting my journey when I ask 🙂 x

    1. Lovely to connect Chrissie and we can’t wait to share the new material in the book with you all! It’s a real pleasure having so many awesome people like yourself as part of the Pinch Me Living community. Warmest wishes, B 🙂

  2. I have never posted comments before on any site but I just wanted to say thank you Bernadette for your posts. They really resonate with me and are so very well written, I will try to coerce my husband (a confirmed non reader of anything other than the sport pages) to take a look at your posts! Many thanks to you.

    1. Hi, it’s an absolute pleasure to be able to share the material with you. Good luck with coercing the hubby! 🙂 Nice to be in touch, and sending you best wishes, Bernadette.

  3. hi, you write so well, the article is really very inclusive! Thanks for the help! Keep up the good work! seems like I will be coming back to what you are radiating! 🙂 Thank you.

    1. Hi Gou, thank you for being here and glad you enjoyed the article. I look forward to sharing more with you and the rest of our community. Best wishes, Bernadette

  4. Thank you. You said just what I needed. I’ve always been a self congident person. A school teacher for many years. Lately I have been thrown a loop. Falls and surgeries Shingles and extreme nerve pain after back surgery. I have. Been feeling helpless and hopeless. This article really spoke to me. Just hoping I can keep up the positive vibes.

    1. Thanks for your message. I’m glad this was helpful for you. You might find other resources on the site useful for supporting hope, empowerment and positive vibes 🙂 including the free affirmation and meditation audios. Best wishes! Bernadette

  5. “Man” refers to mankind or humankind (any sex or age). Look it up. People ignorant to the English language, who correct others, are annoying.

  6. Woke up from a nap feeling like I was on the verge of an “Ah Ah” moment. Like swimming toward something and having the ripples of my momentum continually push it just out of reach. But synchronicity struck again, as it often does if you’re a seeker.
    It’s part of Truth #10. Sometimes we need to surrender and not strive, we need to be still and not push on; then we may find that the blessing we seek comes to us in its own way, in its own time, without the struggle. Like trying to put a halter on a pony; chasing it around the field waving the halter won’t work. Better to be calm and quiet and let the pony’s curiosity bring it close enough. Oh, and a cornflake cookie never hurt either.
    May your holidays be filled with cornflake cookies and gifts of love and peace.

    1. Thanks for sharing this reflection! And I love the halter/pony analogy. So true! Happy holidays. Love, Bernadette

  7. l love this statement . . . “forgiveness is a choice that allows us to be happy again.” Those who are caught in the negativity of a past mistake, or poor choice, often struggle to think in terms of what forgiveness may look like on the other side. So much positivity can result from forgiveness–especially when the one we forgive is ourself.
    Great article, thank you!

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B is a Spiritual Life Coach & Author with over a decade of experience working with clients online, both one-on-one and in groups, helping them to reconnect and align with their soul for a more purposeful, fulfilling, and magical life.

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